Intuitive Coaching 101–Swan among Ducks


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We’ve all felt awkward at times like the sore thumb or the gangling swan among petite ducks in the pond. However, we all look forward to the ending of the Ugly Duckling story.

I’m thinking of the Nine of Air card in Doreen Virtue and Radleigh Valentine’s Angel Tarot Deck where a single unicorn awakens among eight sleeping unicorn. And I believe that many of you find yourself in similar situations as you awaken spiritually while those closest to you snore while they slumber ignorant to the changes happening in the world. Worst yet, when you do interact with your loved ones still in the throes of 3-D reality, you suffer the fate of the village freak or the fool who shouts, “The sky is falling!”

However, while others might reject us and our new world visions, let’s not reject them. Do we really expect others to wake up if we shame or judge them for not participating with the new energies presented to us? Perhaps we act too smug at times like we have all the answers. I know I do this and then chastise myself later. Perhaps you act smug for the same reasons that I do, because you sense your uniqueness and assume that makes you special or omnipresent.

I know that the more I wake up spiritually, I think of myself as the swan among ducklings, not quite fitting in with my ego taking a beating. It reminds of that saying accredited to Jesus about people not knowing how they’re actions affect their brothers–something to do with the right hand not having awareness of what the left hand is doing.  However, we must remember that we really only have two choices of how we react on the planet–out of love or out of fear.  And just because we have the luxury and resources to experiences spiritual awakenings doesn’t mean that we are better than all the others still snoring at the wheel of life. It just means that we must develop self-love and love other people where they’re at.

I remember as a child hearing the story of the ugly duckling and thinking of the swan getting revenge on the ducks. “Yeah, so you thought I was pathetic did you? Well, now look at my unique beauty with my long neck and pure white feathers. Jealous now?” I thought that the unique person finally got the upper hand, but wait a minute. Perhaps the message of the story is not only to accept our uniqueness while not getting caught up in sameness, but also to embrace others as they are without trying to change them.  Wouldn’t we act like hypocrites if we snubbed the ducklings just because they snubbed us swans?

So I guess my message here is to love everyone whether or not they strike out as lone wolves or run with the pack. Everyone develops at his or her own pace even if some of us would love to witness everyone waking up at once like a sleepover at a high school gym.  “Oh, look the cheerleaders are awake and they’re shouting so that everyone else wakes up too.” Don’t we all want to fit into the pack even when we know that we are different in some way? But that’s not the answer either.

Shine in your uniqueness so that you inspire others to discover their authenticity.  It sounds easy, doesn’t it? Our egos want to separate from others and tell us that we are special. Our egos want to compete and one-up the others and even in some cases, get revenge. But I think the swan in the Ugly Duckling story simply floated off and fell in love with another swan, not giving the ducklings much thought.  “Oh, yes, those strange quacking birds live on the other side of the pond. They do their thing and I do mine.”

Let’s accept ourselves and others where we are and in doing this we find common ground. I discovered that when we strip away religious and political beliefs as well as, economics we have more in common than we first imagined. As humans we make up humanity and like it or not, we share the same planet–the beautiful blue Earth.

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5 thoughts on “Intuitive Coaching 101–Swan among Ducks

  1. I have to be bigger than my ego. I feel that success is when I am in control, not my ego… Especially since I aspire to be an expression of love and compassion. Talk about a life long journey! Great post.

  2. Some of the swans take to heart the “lessons” life teaches during that ugly stage – the swans may glide off, but a small part of them may hold a bit of fondness for the ducks and still wish to ease their way when needed?

  3. This is a good observation and the swans can protect the ducks from predators because swans are fierce birds.

    Hello Epiphany, I know about ego and yes, it does stand in the way of expressing love. But on the other hand, sometimes we require ego’s help to steer us away from real danger. Intuitive Coach Sonia Choquette asks her Higher Self to lead the way and ego to support Higher Self. I like this approach because it allows us to being loving and compassionate towards the wounded or scared child parts of ourselves.

  4. I had a realization about my swan and how my family was very deceptive for no real reason that I could ponder, but I really feel like I got dropped off at the wrong house. I have these visions of past lives which seem like a warrior, but now I am this small lady that has compassion and forgiveness. I just feel like maybe in this life cycle that I am so different because I am kind and that seems weak to some people. I heard that it is better to be feared than loved because people won’t mess with you. I basically dropped away from society, feeling like I am in exile and my tribe is lost or gone. I want to rebuild my kingdom but I see so much betrayal that once I trust someone again–I may not recover from yet another let down from humanity. I almost expect people to behave badly and our future generations I am really fearful for them so far away from nature and good people. How can it be that we have billions of people but we are more lonely despite our social media? We have no privacy which means really no freedom because no one acts the same when they are being watched…? $50M in surveillance technology and police layoffs to balance the books? Sometimes I hear that voice that says, turn the car around and don’t look back–just be me for once go live alone. I am not sure what that is because I have been so many things yet nothing feels right anymore. I use to be a rock-star and maybe I already did what I am suppose to do because so many told me that I could not do it. I lead the group and sang lead as the only female front person as bassist, guitarist, and songwriter for over a decade. I didn’t make much money, but I had so much fun and belted out so many good songs with great musicians. I had some health issues so I had to get away from the band because my ears keep getting vertigo, my eyes hurt so bad, everything was so loud and smokey. I became a yogini in 2011 but now after open heart surgery 2015 got to go easy…yet everyone is counting on me to come through for them. two months of physical therapy and maybe a desk job … I am a corporate refuge not sure if I can play the game anymore… I was hoping this was my year with Jupiter in Leo 😐

    • Dear Sharon,

      I hope that you are able to heal your fears and experience compassion to your birth family. This will liberate you from the challenges you face from the outer world. When you find peace and acceptance from within, then you find acceptance in the outer world too. Often, we project our feelings and thoughts about ourselves onto others who reflect back to us. This is lifelong work, of course, and you’ll find your tribe when you accept humanity where it is now on this glorious journey to wholeness and Oneness.

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